You are in a pharmacy, facing a wall of products. Or online, with fifteen tabs open. And you no longer know whether you are looking for an anaesthetic, a lubricant, a moisturiser or a healing product. Everything feels unclear. And the pharmacist in front of you says ‘ask your gynaecologist’ — perhaps not knowing that your gynaecologist has not told you anything either.

Right. Let us clear things up together.

There are actually four groups of intimate products useful for vaginismus. Each has a different role, a different time for use and different prescribing requirements. We will go through them.

Group 1 — Topical anaesthetics (prescription only)

EMLA (lidocaine + prilocaine)

What it is: a local anaesthetic cream, available on medical prescription. Composition: lidocaine 25 mg/g + prilocaine 25 mg/g.

Its role in vaginismus: applied 30 to 60 minutes before a dilator session or a gynaecological examination, it reduces sensitivity in the vulva and the outer third of the vagina. For women whose initial sensitivity is so intense that no body-based work is possible, it is a very useful transitional tool.

How to use it:

  • Apply a thin layer to the vaginal entrance and vulva
  • Cover with plastic film (food-grade cling film) to encourage absorption
  • Leave for 30 to 60 minutes
  • Remove, then proceed with the dilator session or examination

Precautions:

  • Prescription only
  • Not a first-line part of the work — it is an occasional tool to help you begin, not for long-term use
  • Risk of allergy in some women (a 24-hour test on the arm before the first internal application)
  • The aim is to temporarily reduce sensitivity, not eliminate it. If you cannot feel anything, it is too much.

When to stop: as soon as the initial sensitivity is no longer prohibitive. Ideally between the 3rd and 8th dilator session.

Xylocaine gel (lidocaine 2%)

An alternative to EMLA, less concentrated and with a shorter onset of action (15–20 min). Prescription only. Often used in gynaecological settings for painful examinations.

Group 2 — Vaginal moisturisers (without a prescription)

Do not confuse them with lubricants. Moisturisers act deeply on the vaginal mucosal tissues over time. Lubricants act on the surface at the time of sex. The two groups complement one another; they are not interchangeable.

Mucogyne (a French hyaluronic-acid product)

What it is: vaginal pessaries or gel based on hyaluronic acid. Hormone-free. Available without a prescription.

What it is for: deeply rehydrating fragile vaginal mucosa. Essential for women in perimenopause or after menopause whose vaginismus is aggravated by vulvovaginal atrophy. Also useful for younger women whose mucosa has become fragile after repeated painful attempts.

How to use it: one pessary or one dose of gel 2 to 3 times a week, at bedtime. Not on the day of sex — use it on another day to restore the tissues.

Price: around €18 for a box of 8 pessaries.

Replens (an international polycarbophil product)

What it is: a polycarbophil-based vaginal gel. Hormone-free. Available without a prescription.

What it is for: the same indication as Mucogyne — moisturising the mucosa deeply over time. The texture is different; some women prefer one or the other.

How to use it: one dose every 3 days, in the evening. A cumulative effect.

Price: around €20–25 for a box of 8 doses.

Cicatridine (repair after tissue trauma)

What it is: pessaries containing hyaluronic acid + reparative extracts. Available without a prescription.

What it is for: supporting the healing of small vaginal injuries. Particularly useful after an episiotomy, after painful sex that has weakened the tissues, or in cases of lichen sclerosus.

How to use it: one pessary each evening for 10 days, then repeat every 2–3 days if needed.

Group 3 — Lubricants (without a prescription)

For use at the time of sex or a dilator session. Three subgroups, depending on the base:

Water-based lubricants (the standard)

  • Yes WB: very good quality, natural ingredients, certified organic
  • Sliquid Sea: a neutral feel, glycerine-free
  • Liquid Silk: an established British product with a thick texture

Who they are for: everyone as a first choice. Compatible with all materials (silicone, latex, etc.).

Drawback: dries quickly; reapply if the session is long.

Silicone lubricants

  • Sliquid Silver
  • Pjur Original

Who they are for: women who want lasting lubrication (prolonged sex, dilator sessions of 30+ minutes).

⚠️ Caution: incompatible with silicone dilators — silicone lubricant attacks the dilator’s silicone, wears it down and makes it sticky. Avoid unless your dilator is made of rigid plastic (Amielle, Femmax).

Hybrid lubricants (water + silicone)

  • Yes OB hybrid
  • Sliquid Organics Natural

Who they are for: a compromise between lasting lubrication and compatibility. Silicone-compatible because silicone makes up a smaller proportion.

What to avoid in a lubricant

  • ❌ Glycerine: can irritate and encourage thrush
  • ❌ Parabens: endocrine disruptors
  • ❌ Perfume / fragrance: a common cause of skin irritation
  • ❌ Harsh preservatives (methylisothiazolinone, etc.)
  • ❌ ‘Warming’ or ‘tingling’ lubricants: avoid completely

Read the ingredients. Three ingredients are often enough: water, a natural gelling agent and a gentle preservative.

Group 4 — Local hormonal treatments (prescription only, perimenopause/postmenopause)

For women whose vaginismus worsens or appears in perimenopause or after menopause, vulvovaginal atrophy (GSM — Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause) plays a major role. Moisturisers alone (Mucogyne, Replens) are not always enough. Sometimes a local hormonal treatment needs to be added:

Intrarosa (vaginal DHEA)

A hormone that is a precursor to oestrogens and testosterone. Local action, with little systemic absorption. Often well tolerated by women for whom vaginal oestrogens are contraindicated (a history of breast cancer).

Vagifem / vaginal Estrogel (local oestrogen)

An established option. Very effective at rehydrating and restoring vaginal suppleness. Available on a gynaecological prescription. Not reimbursed by the French social security system for this indication in 2026.

Senshio (ospemifene)

A selective oestrogen receptor modulator (SERM). An oral tablet, not a local cream. For postmenopausal women with severe atrophy who cannot tolerate local treatments.

⚠️ These treatments require a prescription. You should not choose them on your own online. Ask your gynaecologist.

Typical combinations for different situations

You are young, in the first phase of the work and hypersensitive

EMLA (prescription) → reduces initial sensitivity → followed by Cicatridine if tissues are fragile → water-based lubricant for dilator sessions.

You are midway through the protocol and progressing well

Water-based or hybrid lubricant → occasional Cicatridine if there are small injuries → EMLA no longer needed.

You are in perimenopause or postmenopause with secondary vaginismus

Mucogyne or Replens 2–3× a week + prescribed local hormonal treatment (Intrarosa or Vagifem) + water-based lubricant every time you have sex.

You are resuming sex after childbirth with an episiotomy or tear

A 10-day course of Cicatridine → then Mucogyne for maintenance → water-based lubricant for sex.

What to take from this article

Three things:

  1. Four distinct groups: anaesthetics (a short transition), moisturisers (long-term tissue care), lubricants (at the time) and hormonal treatments (menopause). Do not confuse them or substitute one for another.
  2. EMLA is an occasional tool, not a long-term treatment. It helps you begin; you need to be able to stop using it.
  3. Lubricants: read the ingredients. No glycerine, no parabens, no fragrance. Simplicity protects.

Further reading

If you want the chapter-by-chapter detail of intimate products for different clinical presentations of vaginismus — when to introduce them, when to stop, what to combine with what — I have written Votre Vaginisme : fini l’errance, dénouer le plaisir selon votre profil (French edition).

A full chapter is devoted to intimate products, with specific protocols for your situation among the 8 portraits.

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📖 Further reading — Scarlett Kaplan’s book, Votre Vaginisme (French edition): the most comprehensive French-language reference on vaginismus.