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56 articles · Available to read in English

Motherhood · Relationships · Childbirth

Information overload: the essentials an expectant father really needs to remember

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Relationships

‘It doesn’t matter’: when reassurance becomes silence between partners

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Vaginismus · Sex therapy

How to find a competent vaginismus therapist — and recognise warning signs

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First time

Which contraception should I choose for my first time? An honest overview

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Motherhood · Relationships · Childbirth

Epidural or no epidural: why your relationship does not need to take sides

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy

Male pelvic floor physiotherapy and premature ejaculation: when it can help

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Vaginismus · Relationships · Sex therapy

Yasmina, 24: anxiety, vaginismus and a culture of silence — a clinical portrait

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First time

What exactly is virginity? Anatomy, history and myth

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THE BLOG

I Don’t Care Who Caught the Bouquet. I Care Who Caught My Baby.

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Motherhood · Relationships · Childbirth

Birth plan: the 5 lines the partner needs to stand up for

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Sexual trauma

Trauma and premature ejaculation: when the male body remembers (and how to begin moving beyond it)

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Vaginismus · Individual therapy · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

EMLA, Mucogyne, Replens, Cicatridine: a guide to intimate products for vaginismus

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First time

Just like on TV? Why your first time will not look like what you have seen on screen

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Motherhood · Relationships · Childbirth

Supporting her without directing her: the difference between coaching and support on the day of the birth

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties · Relationships

Stop-start as a couple: why turning your partner into your nurse damages your relationship more than premature ejaculation itself

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Vaginismus · Individual therapy · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

Hélène, 52: thirty years later, I found a name for it

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First time · Vaginismus

What if it will not go in? How to cope, and what your body is saying

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Motherhood · Relationships · Childbirth

The father as a protective presence: protecting your partner from procedures without consent in the maternity unit

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Relationships

How Antoine recovered from premature ejaculation in 11 months (a realistic journey, not a marketing testimonial)

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Vaginismus · Individual therapy · Sexual difficulties

Velvi, Amielle, pelvic wand: the 2026 buying guide to vaginal dilators

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First time

What is real consent? Why saying “yes” is not enough

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Motherhood · Relationships · Childbirth

Childbirth: the checklist your partner takes full responsibility for

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Premature ejaculation · Relationships · Sex therapy

My boyfriend ejaculates too quickly: what nobody tells you (and how to support him without becoming his nurse)

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Vaginismus · Individual therapy · Sex therapy

Sophie, 47: secondary vaginismus during perimenopause — a clinical portrait

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First time

Will I definitely bleed the first time? Dismantling a myth

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Motherhood · Relationships · Childbirth

‘Personne de confiance’: what French law allows you to say to the care team

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

Why your jaw matters when you ejaculate too quickly (the neurological link nobody explains)

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Vaginismus · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

Why is penetration impossible? The 4 mechanisms of vaginismus

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First time

Does it hurt the first time? What really happens in your body

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

Reverse Kegels for men: the premature ejaculation exercise your urologist probably has not shown you

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Vaginismus · Relationships · Sex therapy

Camille, 28: situational vaginismus — why with him and not with someone else

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Motherhood · Relationships · Childbirth

40 positive affirmations for childbirth (to print and listen to)

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First time

Am I ready? A sex therapist’s real seven-question test

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Motherhood · Relationships · Childbirth

Dads in the delivery room: 7 things to say, and 3 never to say

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

A sex therapist in Paris for premature ejaculation: where to start (and whom to avoid)

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Vaginismus · Individual therapy · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

Hypertonic pelvic floor: 7 signs it may also be affecting your sex life

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

Priligy, SSRIs and premature ejaculation: the truth you are not told before a prescription

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

The Kegel trap: why these exercises often make premature ejaculation worse (instead of resolving it)

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Vaginismus · Individual therapy · Sex therapy

Léa, 19: primary vaginismus without attempted penetration — a clinical portrait

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

Sexual performance anxiety: the self-fulfilling prophecy that creates premature ejaculation

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Motherhood

Maternity leave — back in January 2027

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Premature ejaculation · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

Premature ejaculation is not about duration — it is about presence

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Vaginismus · Sexual trauma · Sex therapy · Sexual difficulties

Bodily trauma and vaginismus: what your vagina remembers

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Individual therapy · Motherhood · Parenthood

Maternal exhaustion: you are not a bad mother

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THE BLOG

Psychologist and sexologist in Paris 16: unlock your intimacy

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Orgasm · Anorgasmia · Pleasure · Sexual difficulties · Sex therapy

Anorgasmia: stop looking for orgasm!

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Vaginismus · Sex therapy

"I haven't experienced trauma, but my vagina still closes up. Why do I have vaginismus?"

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Vaginismus · Sex therapy

“My gynaecologist says my vaginismus is just stress” — what never gets said

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Vaginismus · Sex therapy

Vaginal dilators still not working after 2 years? Discover the real causes of vaginismus

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Sexual trauma · Vaginismus · Sex therapy

Vaginismus and trauma: when the body closes

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Sexual trauma · Sex therapy

The body knows how to heal: understanding resilience after trauma

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Sexual trauma · Sex therapy

Sexuality after sexual trauma: when the body remembers

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Sexual trauma · Motherhood · Sex therapy

Sexual trauma and wanting a child: preparing, finding calm and letting go

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Relationships

Recurring arguments as a couple: breaking the cycle

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THE BLOG

How to respond when your partner has a sexual difficulty (premature ejaculation, erectile difficulties, anorgasmia, low desire…)

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THE BLOG

Why no one ever tells you sex can be interrupted — or the magic of the yoghurt break

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